Shame is a pervasive feeling that affects a person’s living.
Without addressing shame, one continues to live his/her life in severe
emotional pain that attracts suffering through unhappiness, job dissatisfaction
or life dissatisfaction. Shame can be identified by the following beliefs, feelings
or behaviors:
Beliefs
I am bad. There
is something wrong with me
It is all my fault. I
am not good enough.
I disappoint others. I
can’t do anything right.
I am a loser.
Feelings
Fear Shame Humiliation
Fear of what others think Embarrassment ExposureFear of disappointing others Unworthiness
Fear of failure Inadequacy
Keeps secrets Quiet/shares little Speaks
in a low voice
Hides behind long hair/hats Cannot admit to making a mistake Avoids exposure Wears more clothing than is Runs away to avoid confrontation (being exposed) Hiding
needed to hide the body
The only way to
successfully heal shame is through safe exposure, such as group therapy. Shame
is healed by sharing one’s secrets and shameful thoughts and feelings. To heal
shame is to free one’s soul from the ongoing feelings of persecution and
unworthiness.
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