Do I need to tell you?

You need me to tell you
what to do,
when to do it and
how to do it.

Only to then tell me
that I tell you
what to do,
when to do it and
how to do it.

If you let go of the fear of making a mistake,
you will have the courage to initiate.

And no one will have to tell you
what to do,
when to do it and
how to do it.

You will think for yourself.

 

 

Some people think that they can't,

when they can...

 

Others think they can, when they can't.

 

 

Which category do you fall into?

 

The truth lies in Trying!

If you try, you will know for sure if you can... or you can't.  

 

 

You are not who you think you are

Although you came into this world pure in your thoughts of who you are, you quickly learned to identify yourself through the eyes of others. As a small child, those other eyes may have been your parents.  As you grew, those eyes became those of your siblings and other children. As you grew older,  so did your innermost longing to be loved and accepted by others. In the effort to gain this acceptance, you also learned how to “be” in order for others to approve of you.  It is similar to the childhood game of telephone. The initial message is distorted so many times that it is no longer recognizable as the message it once was. It is time for you to give up the fears and insecurities that were projected through the eyes of others, and to allow yourself the freedom to be who you really are. In other words, you are not the failure or disappointment that you were led to believe through the eyes of others. You are smart. You are capable. You are talented. You are good in math. You can read. You write well. You have a big heart. You are beautiful. You are worth it. You can do it!

You are not who you think you are…you are amazing!   

Yes you can!

Do you ever struggle with feelings of doubt or uncertainty? Do you doubt your abilities? Is there a voice in your head that challenges you at times by telling you, “You can’t do that, You don’t know how, or You have never done that before? Perhaps, that voice tells you instead, “Don’t do that. You will screw it up,” This is often the voice of your ego trying to sabotage your efforts at moving forward. As children, you longed for your parents to notice your abilities, to praise your efforts, to celebrate your accomplishments.  “Look what I can do!” As an adult however, you may sit idly on the sidelines waiting for someone to notice how capable you are. In truth, it may not happen. As adults it is understood that you can take care of yourself, physically and emotionally. Therefore, it is expected that you are capable of validating your own needs and feelings.  Yet, too often people resist stepping into that role. They continue to wait for others to notice and to say or do something that validates them.  True validation comes from within.  It is the knowledge that you are capable. You recognize that although you may not do something perfectly, you are able to do it well.  You can accept yourself as a capable person. It is no longer necessary for others to see that which you already know. You are capable. Therefore, the voice in your head tells you, “Yes, you can!”