Are you 'busy?"

Are you "busy" or are you productive?

Busy insures that you always have somethng to do.
It enables you to avoid boredom.
It conveys to others that you are important.
Busy costs you time and money.

Productivity focuses on what you have done.
It allows you to feel accomplished and successful.
It conveys to others that you are capable.
Productivity makes you time and money.

 

Learn to be Productive, Rather than Busy.

Changing Things Up!

The Universe is changing things Up! When we hear this phrase we often think of having our lives rattled unexpectedly.  2012 has been the year of change. Many people have had their lives unexpectedly turned upside down. What was once is no more. As we move toward the end of the year and Decamber 21, in particular, the Universe begins to right the wrongs. What was turned upside down will begin to turn up right in a new and improved way. For the Universe to change things UP is to bring positive changes.

 

Think of my trees stripped of their beauty, pruned and cut bare yet fruit a thousand times better for the pruning arise. You are in the hands of a Master-Gardener. He makes no mistakes about His pruning. Rejoice."    --Two Listeners

How do you view the good in your life?

Do you experience the good in your life as Luck or Blessings?

Do you see the good in your life as random, as if you played the lottery and won by chance?
Do you say, "I am lucky?"

Or do you attribute the good in your life as a gift from God/Universe for living a life of faith and honesty? Do you say, "I am blessed?"

Take the time to acknowledge the Blessings in your Life, especially your health, your family and your home.

Healing Shame

Shame is a pervasive feeling that affects a person’s living. Without addressing shame, one continues to live his/her life in severe emotional pain that attracts suffering through unhappiness, job dissatisfaction or life dissatisfaction. Shame can be identified by the following beliefs, feelings or behaviors:

Beliefs

I am bad.                                                             There is something wrong with me

It is all my fault.                                                 I am not good enough.

I disappoint others.                                         I can’t do anything right.

I am a loser.

Feelings

Fear                                                        Shame                                          Humiliation          

Fear of what others think                   Embarrassment                          Exposure

Fear of disappointing others              Unworthiness

Fear of failure                                        Inadequacy

 

Behaviors

Keeps secrets                                     Quiet/shares little                                     Speaks in a low voice

Hides behind long hair/hats           Cannot admit to making a mistake       Avoids exposure       
              
Wears more clothing than is          Runs away to avoid confrontation (being exposed)    Hiding
 needed to hide the body  

 

The only way to successfully heal shame is through safe exposure, such as group therapy. Shame is healed by sharing one’s secrets and shameful thoughts and feelings. To heal shame is to free one’s soul from the ongoing feelings of persecution and unworthiness.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Live your life with ease

Did you know that things can be easy? You make things harder than they have to be. In fact, you avoid doing things because you believe that it will be too hard. Therefore, you do not declutter the closet, make the pie crust, knit the sweater or host the holiday gathering...all because you assume it will be too difficult. In truth, once you actually commit to doing that which you have been avoiding, you may be pleasantly surprised to find that the task was easier than you had imagined.

I live my life with ease.  

 

 

 

 

Heart vs. Ego

The Heart vs. The Ego. The two do battle, each one desiring dominance over your life. The Ego speaks to you of a longing for something more...more love, more passion, more joy. It comes from an emptiness within and a strong desire to be fulfilled. It leads you to believe that you are a failure, you do not know what you are doing, or you are to blame. It provides you with the illlusion of what can be, while sabotaging you in your life. The Ego is responsible for vioations of integrity including thievery, and extramarital affairs. The Ego tells you that what you are doing is right, even if when it is wrong.

The heart speaks to you of the desire to love and be loved. It is afraid of being hurt and of hurting those that you love. It does not want to be broken. It wants and fears genuine closeness, the ability for others to know you and still love you.  The heart does not always communicate in words. Sometimes it communicates in actions. The heart yearns not for fulfillment, but for a love that never ends.

The Heart vs. Ego, Love vs. Illusion 

Today Only!

What about Today?

What about today? Today is just beginning.  Are you feeling present to this day, or do you give up today to plan for tomorrow?  Do you tend to miss out on the beauty of today to think about what is needed for tomorrow or next week?  Where is the living for today? Perhaps you lived today, yesterday?  

As the dark of the night, transforms into the light of the day, learn to eagerly embrace the day with wonder. Like a small child excited on the morning of his birthday, embrace today with excitement, trusting that something wonderful is about to happen. Give today the attention it deserves. In doing so, you will find joy! 

Today is all there is. What will today bring? I am so excited!!