Freedom from the Chains of Obligations

Do you ever feel chained to your obligations? Obligations could be either emotional, as in your need to attend your children's school events, or financial, as in paying your mortgage or car loan. When you feel obligated, you can become resentful, particularly if your obligations prevent you from enjoying life.  In other words, you cannot take a day off from work, as you would feel guilty (emotional) in letting your boss down or you will not get paid (financial). These feelings are associated with sacrifice. It is the perceived need to sacrifice one's time and interests to meet the needs or desires of others. Life balance is being able to meet your needs, while also being attentive to the needs of those that you love. You can give more to others only when you have given to yourself. When chained to obligations, one is at risk for forcefully breaking the chains in an abrupt attempt to free their soul. In truth, all that was needed was a gentle balance, as in asking for what you need and giving yourself permission to not only have needs, but the desire to meet them. 

It is time to Resign!

It is time to resign, but not from the job that puts food on the table. It is time to resign from being the CEO (aka caretaker) of your household. If you are primarily responsible for making things happen, including laundry, groceries, and managing all that is involved in running a home, you are eligible for this offer. You have sufficiently met your responsibilities. this position is often held by a person who needs to be needed.  In addition, you may have been programmed to neglect your own needs, and therefore, unconsciously look to fill the needs of others.  You mistakenly believe that the needs of others matter more than your needs.  In truth, you feel unworthy of having needs. It is then automatic to put the needs of others before your own needs. In time though, you will feel resentful that others needs get met, while your needs are still neglected. Who is taking care of your needs? Burdens are responsibilities that belong to others. In other words, you assume the responsibility of others, while neglecting responsibility for yourself.   

Today, I give you permission to surrender your burdens, whether emotional, financial or physical, to others. In the very least, remind others that they are responsible for themselves and their well-being. In doing so, you will have the time and energy to meet your needs. You will feel so much happier!

                                                          My needs matter, too!