Shame is a pervasive feeling that affects a person’s living. Without addressing shame, one continues to live his/her life in severe emotional pain that attracts suffering through unhappiness, job dissatisfaction or life dissatisfaction. Shame can be identified by the following beliefs, feelings or behaviors:
I am bad. There is something wrong with meIt is all my fault. I am not good enough.
I disappoint others. I can’t do anything right.I am a loser.
Fear Shame HumiliationFear of what others think Embarrassment Exposure
Fear of disappointing others Unworthiness
Fear of failure Inadequacy
Keeps secrets Quiet/shares little Speaks in a low voiceHides behind long hair/hats Cannot admit to making a mistake Avoids exposure
Wears more clothing than is Runs away to avoid confrontation (being exposed) Hiding
needed to hide the body
The only way to successfully heal shame is through safe exposure, such as group therapy. Shame is healed by sharing one’s secrets and shameful thoughts and feelings. To heal shame is to free one’s soul from the ongoing feelings of persecution and unworthiness.